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So you’re wondering if you should get back with your ex lover…

Your friends & are family are probably screaming no..

But you’re torn…

A part of you is longing for reliving the precious memories you spent together…

The ones that made your heart skip a beat & give you butterflies…

But there’s also the memories that weren’t so nice..

The ones of feeling broken, hurt and betrayed..

And you just can’t seem to make the right decision…

Well, you’ve come to the right place!

Because this article you will help you decide if you should get back with your ex or not..

So let’s get started!

Here’s My Success Story Of How I Got My Ex Back…

I remember this day like it was yesterday…

Perched at the end of my bed with tears running down my face like a waterfall…

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My partner Tom was standing over me with a uneasy expression on his face.

“I’m sorry, but it’s over”..

Those words pierced through me like a sword.

The pain was unbearable…

But what hurt the most was how sudden his decision was…

The night before everything felt perfect.

Nothing suggested our relationship would end the next day.

The news hit me like a ton of bricks, and just like that he’d left…

Weeks went by…

And as the days passed the pain got worse…

Sleepless nights…insomnia

Crying so much I had no tears left to shed…

The anxiety…

Everything in my life felt unbearable…

I was a wreck…

My pleads to Tom went unheard.

Missed phone calls & texts left me feeling like a abandoned puppy at a shelter…

Nothing seemed to work…

Heck, I even tried to go to his work & beg him to come back…

But all this did was make me look like a desperate freak…

I was running out of options…

Which led me to try one last thing…

Google…

I began digging for tips, tricks & methods to make him fall madly in love with me again…

And after hours of research I finally found what I’d been looking for…

brad-browning-ex-factorBrad Browning…

No, not another man to fall in love with, but a man that could help me.

You see, Brad is known as the “relationship geek” and specializes in heartbroken people like you & me to get their partner back..

So I started watching his videos on YouTube…

After watching all his videos I finally had a glimmer of hope I’d been so desperately trying to find…

Although they were extremely helpful, it still didn’t feel like enough…

Then I got an email that changed the course of history…

It was from Brad…

I had signed up to his email list a couple days prior through his channel.

The email was an invite to his Ex Factor Guide.

A program he claimed to have a 90% success rate to get your partner back..

At first I was a little hesitant but my curious mind took over…

Because by then I was desperate to get Tom back…

So I went to his website to see what it was all about…

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He spoke about male psychology & the exact buttons you need to push to rewire hard feelings to make him fall in love again..

His program offered a step by step system to rekindle the spark I’d so desperately wanted back…

So I took the plunge and bought the program..

By this time I had nothing to lose, and everything to gain…

And it was the best decision I’d ever make…

Due to legal reasons I can’t talk about the methods he teaches in his program.

But I can tell you this…

They were nothing like I’d seen before…

So I started to apply his crazy methods to get Tom back…

This wasn’t a miracle fix that happened over night…

But after a week or two something magical happened…

It was a text from Tom…

“Hey I think we need to talk, are you free this evening?”

My hear skipped a beat…

“It worked!” I screamed…

I burst in tears, but this time they were tears of relief…

So Tom came over that evening…

holding-flowersAnd In his hands clutched a bouquet of red roses.

He apologized profusely and said he needed time to think about our relationship.

It was weird… Tom wasn’t a “feelings” kind of guy and often kept his emotions to himself.

But he let it all out that night…

The good, the bad, and the ugly…

It completely opened my eyes to the kind of relationship we had…

At first I was confused as everything felt okay before he left..

But there was a lot of problems I couldn’t see…

We talked for hours about our relationship & decided to start off with a clean slate..

And this time around we would be honest & open with each other…

So our emotions wouldn’t bottle up & cause us to make a decision we’d later regret…

It’s now been 5 years since that fateful day with Tom…

And our relationship couldn’t be any better.

The wounds have finally healed & now we’re stronger than ever before…

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It may sound a little crazy but the time apart is what saved our relationship…

And I couldn’t sit here writing this story without mentioning Brad..

After writing countless emails thanking him for all his help, I still couldn’t thank him enough…

Without his help I’m not sure if Tom and I would of got back together…

I’m extremely grateful for him…

And to this day he is still helping thousands of people with their relationships…

So if you’re longing to get your partner back in your arms then I highly recommend you take a look at the Ex Factor Guide.

I’m just one of his many successful testimonies and I honestly believe he can help you too…

The link to his website his here.

Remember, you have nothing to lose by trying..

And if it does work it will be well worth it!

Anyway, that’s my success story..

But if you’re still a little hesitant about if you want to get back together then keep reading!

Is It A Bad Idea To Get Back Together?

So this question has probably been playing on your mind a lot.

Whether or not you should try and start over…

This is a little tricky as each relationship is different but I’ll try to summarize as best I can.

Here’s why it could be a bad idea:

  • He or she was emotionally and/or physically abusive.
  • You both have strong beliefs you can’t see eye to eye that hinder or damage your relationship.
  • If either partner can’t admit their faults and try work through it.
  • Your entire relationship was toxic & unhealthy.
  • They’re happier without you.
  • They don’t understand you on an emotional level.
  • They don’t treat you kindly.

Again, all relationships are different…

And sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away…

An ex is an ex for a reason…

So I believe it’s a bad idea if you can relate to one or more of these suggestions.

However if you do believe the positives outweigh the cons, then keep reading!

Why You Should Get Back Together…

Let’s talk about the positives to see if there is hope of rekindling your relationship.

Here’s why it could be a good idea:

  • There’s a strong emotional connection between the two of you.
  • It’s difficult seeing yourself with anyone else.
  • Your relationship was positive & loving for the most part.
  • You believe you can work past your differences.
  • You still have feelings for each other.
  • They don’t abuse or hurt you.
  • There are no major feelings of doubt.
  • You believe you can trust them again.

If you’ve ticked off a few of these objections then great!

I believe you two have a chance of starting over.

For me and my partner Tom, communication is what drove us apart.

He was terrible at expressing his emotions and I was naïve to the signs of an unhealthy relationship.

After working through our differences our old wounds healed.

So it’s important you’re both on the same page as each other.

However it’s sometimes difficult to understand how your ex feels about the situation.

Which is why you should trigger an emotional response to get a better understanding for each other.

What Are The Chances Of You & Your Ex Getting Back Together?

According to theinsider.com 3,512 people were surveyed to see if couples do get back together.

The results showed just 15% of people actually got their ex back, while 14% got back together just to break up again, and 70% never reconnected at all.

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However after reading through multiple websites I found the statistics range from 15-75%

This may not seem like very high odds….

But you need to consider the top survey was done with only 3,500 people.

To put that into perspective, that’s only 0.00004% of the worlds total population….

Plus, these studies can be totally biased…

Because let’s face it, not everyone likes their ex…

So it’s difficult to draw an accurate conclusion based off a couple surveys.

And these stats didn’t stop me from getting him back, and they shouldn’t stop you either.

Plus, if you get the right help I believe you can increase your odds of success.

Each relationship is different, so don’t let a couple silly questionnaires stop you.

Can Exes Get Back Together After A Long Time?

Yes, exes can get back together after a long time apart.

Even after months or years a relationship can reawaken a connection between the two of you…

In fact, this can often be a positive thing.

soul-searchingBecause time apart can lead to soul searching & a deeper understanding of oneself.

Sometimes it takes time to mature & realize what you both truly want out of a relationship.

It can also create a strong emotion of longing for a past lover.

However, this can sometimes have the opposite effect…

You see, time away apart can sometimes make you think…

“Why you didn’t call this off sooner”. 

Also, starting over can reopen old wounds that never healed after the split.

And this unhealthy for both your emotional well being.

But it all comes down to how you two broke up in the first place..

  • Was it because you moved away from each other?
  • Did you simply not have the time to work on your relationship? 
  • Was the separation caused by a lifestyle change? 

If it was due to something simple as the points I mentioned above, then I believe you two can try again…

Try and get a better understanding for this person.

Maybe send them a light hearted message or add them again on Facebook.

You never know unless you try!

When Should You Try & Get Them Back?

You should never try to get back together immediately after the initial break up.

Because at this point emotions are incredibly high & volatile.

You don’t want to say or do the wrong things that could leave a long lasting negative impact on your happily ever after.

So it’s extremely important to make no contact for at least 30 days.30-day-no-contact

This means zero communication whatsoever…

I understand this may be hard for you…

But the no contact rule actually does the opposite of what you may think…

It draws them closer…

There’s actually science behind it that Brad teaches in his program…

And at first I was a little overwhelmed with the idea…

I was worried Tom would leave me for someone else or stop loving me altogether.

However I was overjoyed with how well it worked…

Because it actually made him miss me more…

With or without Brads help, you should always give it at least a month.

Can Exes Change?

Exes can only change if they choose too.

And unfortunately you cannot control their decisions.

If they’ve tried to change multiple times in the past you need to consider they might fall back into bad habits.

You should also look at the type of change you’re expecting them to make…

Do expect them to completely transform their entire personality or is it something minor?

Because high expectations could lead to your relationship to fail again….

However, if it’s something minor (e.g. communication) this could be something you guys can work out.

You need to evaluate what you’re expecting your relationship to look like, and if it’s doable with the person you want to be with.

To gain clarity I’d suggest writing it down or perhaps have a chat with your ex about it.

They might say they will, but it comes down to listening to your intuition to make that decision for yourself.

How Do I Make My Ex Want Me Back?

So by now you’ve probably come to the conclusion that you do in fact want them back.

But how do you do it?

Below I’ve compiled some of the most powerful strategies in doing so.

Again, if you want the exact persuasion methods to convince them to come back then I highly recommend you take a look at the Ex Factor Guide.

However if you’re looking for practical strategies these tips & tricks will help too.

1.) Let Them Cool Down:

Emotions run high after a relationship has just ended.

stress-from-relationshipSo it’s important you both take the necessary time to unwind & have some space from each other.

This is often called the incubation period.

In this time you should make minimal to no contact at all with each other.

This way emotions can settle & you both can think without influencing each others train of thought.

This often helps for either person to realize what they’ve done wrong…

And can draw you closer together after time apart.

So this means…

  • Avoid texting, calling, or messaging each other.
  • Stop liking comments, photos, posts on their social media accounts.
  • No turning up to their work or home out of nowhere.

Basically avoiding each other as much as possible.

This will be difficult for the both of you…

However from my own experience it’s well worth the wait.

Having time to think things through will do wonders for potentially getting back together.

Avoiding to do so could ruin your chances of getting back together.

So perhaps go stay at a friends, catch up with family or spend some much needed time to yourself to heal & recuperate.

2.) Take Time For Self Love:

You should always be your number 1 priority.Self-love

And in order to try & get them back you should take time to care for yourself.

Unfortunately the most common thing people do after a break up is the total opposite….

It’s the typical cliché…

A tub full of ice cream on the sofa binge watching crappy soap dramas on T.V.

But hey I understand…

And sometimes this is exactly what you need to make yourself feel better…

However you don’t want to fall into these habits forever…

This can lead to self destructive behavior that makes you feel even worse.

So it’s important to practice loving yourself first.

Here’s what you need to do.

  • Get back into an old hobby you love.
  • Start reading personal development books.
  • Go get your nails & hair done.
  • Do some travelling.
  • Start exercising more.
  • Go eat some nice healthy food.
  • Have a hot bubble bath with scented candles.
  • Get your nails & hair done.
  • Spend time with positive friends.

Radiating positivity and self love will reflect those same emotions back into your life.

And if your ex can see that it can draw him or her in to give you the same love back.

3.) Don’t Say Or Do Anything You’ll Regret:

“You can choose your words, but cannot choose the effect they’ll have on others”

keep-quietPerhaps have a lot pain & anger bottled up…

And the only way you can release these frustrations is by taking it out on your ex…

You believe that making them feel bad will make you feel better…

Unfortunately, this can totally backfire on you…

Acting irrationally will not make the situation any better….

And can potentially ruin your chances of ever getting back together…

So here’s what you shouldn’t do…

  • Spread false rumor’s.
  • Include your friends in the drama.
  • Sleep with someone else.
  • Expose their personal secrets.
  • Make a scene over social media.
  • Verbally abuse them.
  • Physically abuse them.
  • Try to ruin their life.

I know it’s hard…

But you need to try and be the bigger person here..

If you need to vent your frustrations it’s important to do it in a healthy way..

Console in a friend or family member.

Write it all down.

Or perhaps give it more time to talk to your ex about it.

Don’t do something you’ll regret.

The pain won’t go away by doing something irrational.

If you have done something like this then I suggest you take a look here to try and fix it.

4.) Don’t Lose Yourself:

Perhaps you’re desperate to get them back…

And you’re willing to do just about anything to make it work…

So you decide to “change” to make them want you…

Working on mistakes you’ve made in the past is important..

But completely changing who you are as a person isn’t… change-for-your-ex

Especially not with your ex…

Because this will cause an unhealthy imbalance in your relationship..

And allow them to take advantage of you…

In fact, it’s immoral & totally not okay for someone to do this to you.

A partner should accept you for who you are..

If they can’t then they don’t deserve you, period!

You need to be strong & stick to your morals.

Don’t let another person dictate how you should think and act.

Most importantly, don’t lose yourself for anyone.

I see too many people do this and it literally breaks my heart.

5.) Work On What You Did Wrong:

Self reflection is an important part of making a relationship work again.

This step isn’t always easy…

Because you need to drop your ego and try to get into your exes shoes.

This way you can try and understand how you made that person feel.

Remember, it takes two to tango..

Your relationship most likely ended because you both had disagreements you couldn’t come to terms with.

So perhaps go through old messages and try to remember the problems he or she had with you…

Try and write everything down, that way you can gain get a better perspective.

  • Were you too clingy or pushy?
  • Did you try and control them?
  • Were you not listening to them properly?
  • Did you have poor communication with him or her?
  • Were you trying to stop them from doing things you didn’t like?
  • Did they do something you didn’t like?

You need to be brutally honest with yourself…

That way you can decide if your relationship can potentially work…

However if your significant other is expecting something you cannot deliver then perhaps you need to evaluate if the relationship is worth pursuing..

Remember, you should never let go of who you are.

But if they’re small problems you believe you can fix then it could be worth giving it another try.

Conclusion:

So…

Should you try again?

By now you’ve probably heard everyone else’s opinion on the matter…

Some good & others not so much…

But only you can make that decision despite what other people may think.

Don’t let anyone else’s opinion get in the way of your own.

So take time for self reflection and put yourself first.

For me personally, I tried again despite what my friends and family had to say…

Because at the end of the day it was my choice to make & not theirs.

I couldn’t live with the regret of not trying again with Tom…

And thankfully it worked out for the both of us…

So if you want try again I say go for it….You have nothing else to lose at this point!

And if you want to increase your chances of success then I highly recommend you try the Ex Factor Guide.

Brad Browning’s step by step guide offers the exact emotional triggers to get your ex partner back.

So you can heal from a broken past and try again.

I’ll leave the link down below to his presentation!

What you’ll find may surprise you.

Other than that this is me over and out!

If you want to ask any questions feel free to leave a comment below and I’ll try my best to help you.

If not, all the best to you and I hope you get your happily ever after!

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